Don’t conceal your intelligence—you want to attract girls who like smart guys, and it’s not good to lie about who you are.
Just because she’s not interested doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Maybe she’s already taken, too busy for romance, gay, hung up on an ex, aromantic and asexual, or just a bad fit for you. If you’re shy or very romantic, it may be extremely hard to let a girl go. It’s okay to feel deeply about someone, but it’s also important to respect her boundaries. Keep in mind that she is an individual with her own life and feelings, and you need to respect that—no means no, and if you don’t listen, she may feel annoyed or even frightened.
Keep in mind that advanced classes or a career in science don’t necessarily indicate intelligence, and any C student or secretary could be extremely intelligent, but can’t or won’t adhere to conventional standards for “smart” people. A part of sexist thinking is that girls should pretend to be less intelligent than guys, for fear of emasculating them. Show girls that you do not follow that mindset and are perfectly okay with their full intelligence. They will appreciate your respect.
Every girl wants to be seen and heard. Try showing genuine interest in the things she talks about — listening actively and completely focusing on her —, as it will make her feel like you care more. This kind of investment shows you are sincere and interested.
Looking across the room, catching her eye, and smiling Finding an excuse to walk over to her Touching her arm or arranging her clothes/hair Complimenting her Listening to her and asking questions to get to know her
Offer compliments Bring her little gifts Celebrate her accomplishments Value her intelligence without trying to compete with her
Entitlement: She doesn’t owe you anything. Don’t demand that she offer an explanation, make time for you, touch you, or otherwise do something for you if she doesn’t want to. This typically makes her uncomfortable and ruins your chances. If she’s uninterested, walk away. Being pushy: No means no. If she tells you she’s not interested, or gives you clear cues that she isn’t, then stop pursuing her and give her space. (If she really likes you, she’ll chase you down, and perhaps learn to be more assertive about it too. ) Pickup artistry: Many “pickup artist” techniques encourage you to adopt toxic habits, like putting her down or pressuring her after she tries to say no. This will chase away most girls and probably give you a reputation as a creep too. Competing: Never put down her intelligence or imply that you’re better than her. You’ll be more skilled than her in some areas, and in other areas, her skill will exceed yours. Rather than letting insecurity get the best of her, show admiration.
