Apply facial sunscreen (SPF 30 or more) every day after washing your face so you can protect your skin. A facial sunscreen will not clog your pores. Some girls find that sweat and body odor are easier to manage if they shave their armpits. This is not required in order to be attractive, and you can decide what’s best for you. Try out light perfume for a finishing touch.
Try tricks that don’t involve makeup, like dripping water on your eyelashes to make them clump together nicely, or brushing your lips with a toothbrush so they look fuller.
Try asking a family member or friend to help you pick out colors that complement your skin tone when shopping. It may help to learn what your body type is, so you can choose outfits that best show off your figure.
Sometimes girls get harassed (followed, solicited, grabbed, remarked on, threatened) by boys or men. This is not caused by outfits, but by guys who refuse to control themselves and overstep the bounds of human decency. You deserve an environment free of harassment, so if this happens, tell a responsible adult. No matter what your outfit is, other people’s awful behavior is not your fault. Harassment is serious and deserves to be treated as such.
If you’re disabled, that’s okay. If you can’t make eye contact, try looking at their nose, mouth, necklace, eyebrows. . . whatever is comfortable to you. If you use a wheelchair or walk differently (crutches, toe-walking, etc. ), just use the best posture you can and practice your confident grin. Disabled girls are also capable of looking awesome.
Throw out the beauty magazines. These feed insecurity, and you don’t need that in your life. Recognize that your opinions and feelings are just as important as anyone else’s. It’s good to be nice, but it’s not good to constantly defer to others and never express your wants.
If you want to make friends, try joining clubs or volunteer opportunities where you can meet people like you. Or, reach out to a classmate or acquaintance. Don’t be afraid to reach out when you need something! Remember, people like to be helpful, and being vulnerable allows them to show their true colors and be a great friend to you too.
If you want to make friends, try joining clubs or volunteer opportunities where you can meet people like you. Or, reach out to a classmate or acquaintance. Don’t be afraid to reach out when you need something! Remember, people like to be helpful, and being vulnerable allows them to show their true colors and be a great friend to you too.
Remember that girls can be great at STEM subject areas. There are many incredible women scientists, mathematicians, etc. who are left out of the history books. (Search the internet for “women in _____” and see for yourself!) There are tons of jobs in these fields, so you would be super attractive to employers. It’s okay if you’re low on natural ability. Hard work is more important than inborn intelligence in the long run. Do your best, try hard, and you’ll be great!
