This is tough to do, of course, and will take some practice. Mostly you just need to remind yourself to let go, but you can also do exercises by distracting yourself with other tasks while you wait out the thing that’s making you upset. Remember that the behavior of other people is one of the biggest things that is outside of our control.
For example, your husband may drive you crazy when he forgets to do the dishes. However, he doesn’t forget them to be mean to you. . . . forgetfulness is probably just a part of who he is, just like how you snore.
Remember, to err is human!
Don’t worry about what other people say or what they want you to be. [10] X Research source It’s not their life: it’s yours.
Try taking a weekend away at the library to read and relax. Sit alone for lunch sometimes to get away from the drama.
You can volunteer at a local soup kitchen or at your local community center, tutoring for adult literacy classes. [14] X Research source
Have you always wanted to learn how to play the piano maybe? Maybe what you really want to do is have a child?
One good chillout song is Ze Frank’s “Chillout”. What a surprise! MyNoise is another great source of relaxing music that can help you center yourself and find some inner peace. [17] X Research source
If someone in your life is prone to just bringing the drama, try to cut them out as much as you can.
A Guide to the Good Life, by William B Irvine, is a great modern primer on Stoic philosophy.
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