If you repeatedly feel disrespected or overlooked, it may be time to act. Being Mr. Nice Guy or Ms. Nice Girl won’t always work in your favor, unfortunately. Look for cues that you are uncomfortable. Is your body tense? Are you sweating? Are you feeling anxious, angry, frustrated or fearful? Then, you have to make a choice to help you feel more in control, rather than being taken advantage of. [3] X Expert Source Maggie MitchellLife Coach Expert Interview. 18 October 2021. Make sure to take some deep breaths to calm and compose yourself before acting. [4] X Expert Source Maggie MitchellLife Coach Expert Interview. 18 October 2021.
And this is not to say that fighting fire with fire always works – if someone is being mean to you, then the solution doesn’t have to be to be mean back. But if you’ve tried everything else, then it may be time to assert yourself.
Make sure to watch yourself. If it feels a little too good to be mean and intimidating, then it’s time to back off.
You don’t want to overdo it. If you’re normally shy and meek and start acting like a bouncer at the hottest club in Manhattan, people may be on to you.
If something seems ridiculous or un-doable to you, then say so. This is the new you, remember? It’s a matter of getting the respect that you deserve. People won’t respect you if they know you’ll say yes to anything they want you to do.
You have to really know what you want to know if you’re settling. Take some time to think about what you want out of life – and what you hope to achieve by being mean and intimidating.
Stop the desperation of trying to look like you fit in and stop surrounding yourself with people you don’t really care about just so you look cooler.
It’s a matter of attitude. If you think that a million good things can happen to you and are excited to start getting what you want, it’s much more likely to happen than if you crawl into a fetal position in the corner and cry, “Nothing good ever happens to me…”
This doesn’t mean that you have to think you’re perfect. It does mean that you have to realize that you’re a worthy person, flaws and all.
Look straight ahead instead of down at the floor. Let people see that you’re always looking toward the future.
Though everyone is entitled to their opinion, you should not go around spouting off ill-founded, hurtful, or just annoying opinions; this will not make people respect you. Have firm beliefs, but make sure they are founded in reality.
If you want to sound like you have conviction and want to be taken seriously, then you have to have control over your words and emotions.
Fake it until you make it. [12] X Research source If you have the body language and voice control down, you’ll be much more likely to feel confident. [13] X Research source
Also remember not to appear afraid or intimidated – as otherwise this will ruin the desired effect.
You can always tape record yourself at home to see how you really come off.
This is a great way of showing that you don’t care what other people think, which is an intimidating trait.
This is a great way of showing that you don’t care what other people think, which is an intimidating trait.
Don’t look around nervously for someone to talk to. If you look like you know where you’re going, you’ll immediately intimidate people.
Of course, if you’re just hanging out with a bunch of people who you don’t want to be mean to, then laugh all you want!
Don’t be so invested in bragging and showing people how awesome you are in an attempt to scare people off. This will make you seem like you’re desperate for approval, which is the opposite of being mean or intimidating.
Don’t let people see you looking at your reflection or fixing your clothes or make up in public. This will make you look a bit unsure of yourself.
It’s okay to open up to your friends about your weaknesses and insecurities. But when it comes to going out in public and giving people a scare, keep it to yourself.
