Try establishing eye contact and then looking away, leaving the guy wondering if you were truly looking at him or not.
Make sure that the topic is interesting and not polarizing. For example, presidential candidates might be interesting but they’re also polarizing. Instead, the impact of farm-produced fish on the environment is interesting and likely to not be very polarizing at all.
Start off with simple questions like “where are you from originally?” or “where would you travel to if money was no object?” Listen to the answers and ask questions based on those answers, such as: “Oh, you’d like to travel to Paris? What is it about the City of Lights that you find attractive? Would you travel alone or with someone?” If you truly want to be mysterious, try speaking less and listening more. Plant a subtle smirking smile on your face when people are talking, as if you have some secret inside joke that no one else is aware of and leave the guy wondering what’s behind that smile.
You don’t have to talk to someone to make them smile. When you’re making eye contact, give the other person a little smile and watch, they’ll return the favor.
Look for natural opportunities to change topics, which will come up typically in someone else’s response to something. This is a great time to ask a question, which will direct the conversation in another direction.
This idea refers back to the psychology of attraction, which posits that attraction is physiological and psychological and that the two inform one another.
A great way to approach this idea is to only answer questions that you’re asked about yourself as opposed to simply offering up information. Even when you’re answering questions, give as little information as possible while still satisfying the questioner. If someone asks you about your weekend, make some vague reply such as “I met up with some friends and we did some things in town. " If they question you further, just say nothing and smile mysteriously.
This applies to phone calls, texts, video chats, and get-togethers. If your phone rings, let it go to voicemail. If you receive a text or direct message, don’t read it right away. If they suggest that you get together, don’t enthusiastically say yes. Check your calendar first. You’re mysterious when you’re often unavailable.
If people around you tend to wear jeans, for example, consider wearing boot-cut jeans. If everyone wears boots, consider loafers.
Creativity doesn’t just mean artistic. You might not have an artistic bone in your body and that’s just fine. Be creative with your answers to people, your solutions to problems, or even how you spend time with your partner. For example, rather than suggesting dinner and a movie, be creative and take your partner to a place they’ve never been, like a state park, for a picnic and bring a book of your favorite poems to read with them.
For example, if you always grab a coffee on your way to work, decide to go for a jog instead one day. Or, if you always wait for your love interest to call you, surprise them with a phone call.
For example, you can still be mysterious and bring your love interest flowers or send a simple text that says, “thinking of you. ” Small gestures mean a lot, especially from a mysterious person.
